The communities of Norwood and Mansfield, Massachusetts, are mourning the loss of Henry David Oberlander, who passed away on November 5, 2025, at the age of 29 from injuries sustained in an automobile accident. His death leaves a deep void in the hearts of family, friends, and the broader athletic community that watched him grow into a model of dedication and compassion.
Born on August 8, 1996, Henry was the beloved son of David and Beth Bruno Oberlander of Mansfield and the older brother of Cal Oberlander of Queens, New York. His life reflected a balance of physical strength, curiosity, and humility — qualities that defined his journey from student-athlete to mentor and professional.
From Scholar-Athlete to Mentor
A graduate of Xaverian Brothers High School’s Class of 2015, Henry was celebrated for his achievements in wrestling, rugby, and leadership programs. As a freshman wrestler, he won just one varsity match — but through perseverance, he rose to become team captain and a Division 1 South Sectional Champion, later earning placements at the State, All-State, and New England tournaments.
“Henry had a rare blend of grit and grace,” recalled a former Xaverian coach. “He led by example — not by words, but by the effort he gave every day.”
After graduating from Bridgewater State University in 2020 with a degree in psychology, Henry continued to lead as captain of the college wrestling team and earned recognition as a two-time NCAA Division III Academic All-American Scholar. His name remains displayed in the university’s wrestling gym — a testament to his work ethic and love of sport.
A Life Rooted in Family and Community
Off the mat, Henry found a second home in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu at Connors Martial Arts Academy in Norwood, where teammates admired his humor, kindness, and ability to push others to do better. He volunteered as a wrestling coach at Mansfield High School and had planned to return to Xaverian this winter to mentor young athletes.
Professionally, Henry worked for Boston Local 560 and recently earned his septic inspector’s license, while pursuing AutoCAD coursework to join and grow his father’s engineering business — a goal that combined his technical curiosity with his commitment to family legacy.
His loved ones remember him as a “Nonno-in-training,” a nod to his grandfather William Bruno and to Henry’s own warmth, big hugs, and love of family gatherings. Whether sharing a meal, helping a cousin, or tackling a new challenge, Henry embodied the spirit of generosity and connection that defined his upbringing.
Honoring His Legacy
Visiting hours will be held on Friday, November 14, from 3–7 p.m. at Sherman & Jackson Funeral Home in Mansfield, followed by a funeral mass on Saturday, November 15, at 11 a.m. at Saint Mary’s Church, Mansfield. Burial will take place privately.
In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made to Xaverian Brothers High School in Henry’s memory at www.xbhs.com/gifts-in-memory.
Henry David Oberlander’s legacy lives on through the teammates he inspired, the students he mentored, and the family who will forever cherish his strength, humor, and heart.
